To have and to lose it or to never have it at all ?

“Is it better to have had a good thing and lost it, or never to have had it?” – This is one of the dialogue from the book ‘The statistical probability of love at first sight‘.

I think this line is a different form of representing the following famous lines, where the poet talks of love and its loss.

I hold it true, whate’er befall;

I feel it when I sorrow most;

Tis better to have loved and lost

Than never to have loved at all.

In Memoriam A.H.H. is a love poem by the English poet Alfred, Lord Tennyson

But the only change I see is the word ‘good thing’ instead of ‘love’ which sort of generalizes the feeling. So what are the good things that can be had and lost than to have never had it at all ?

The only good thing I could think of was the Love (of parents, friends, better half, kids) and to experience it and may be if we had to lose it over a period of time (due to external reasons within or beyond our control) I would still feel blessed to have had that love. There are lot of people who yearn for it and I would be ever grateful to at least know what it means through the experience rather than hear it through words.

And I thought and thought and no other good thing came to my mind 😦

Am I missing something ?



3 thoughts on “To have and to lose it or to never have it at all ?”

  1. I suppose it’s a question of “ignorance is bliss” v. “the road to wisdom isn’t necessarily a pleasant one”. I don’t know if there is a definitive answer. It may depend upon the person.


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