I thought I was Poplar

My sister forwarded a WhatsApp message about a Tree Astrology saying how close to the truth it was and all that 🙂 and not just for her own date of birth, but for the rest of us too.

According to that, I was born under Poplar Tree  (The Uncertainty) 🙄 Really? Was wondering what other kind of Tree astrology is there and I stumbled upon Celtic Tree astrology. And according to that I am more of a Willow (not the Whomping Willow from Harry Potter y’all) but Willow, the Observer. No more Uncertainty you see. So, as tree astrology goes, I thought I was Poplar yesterday, but looks like I am more Willowy today 😀

Some of the characteristics are true from both, I should agree. But just like every other astrology, I take them with a pinch of salt. It’s fun to read and all, but I will promptly forget about them too. No point remembering these details about my own self.

You like checking these kinds of astrological predictions? What tree represents you?

 

A poetic creation

When I got my Tattoo done this Thursday, it was like most of my other important milestones of life. The ones where I have this plan in my head for too long and then all it takes is just that one moment where I throw up my hands in the air and say feck it and go ahead with it. A little dramatic when I put it that way, but something similar does happen in my mind to be honest 😉 One of my friend said that he was glad of my transformation :), what ever that means. But yeah, I have come a long way from where I was. Especially to get something done on a permanent basis on my skin. It is not like my nose ring which I removed and the skin grew back and the evidence of me ever wearing it (except in the photographs) is totally gone from my body. Tattoo’s are no big deal nowadays and I didn’t get it just for the heck of it but rather to represent something I totally can relate to and make it a part of me forever.

And it would figure that I would go and get Astrological signs 🙂 what with my father being an astrologer and all. I am not too much into astrology, but I like my signs. I like what they tell about me, in a general context of course. We have two signs. I am not sure of the western world, but in Indian astrology, everything is based on the Moon sign rather than the Sun sign. I belong to Taurus, as per my Sun Sign and to Virgo, as per my Moon sign. My friends joke about how true that is, how I am like a bull (Taurus) chasing a woman (Virgo) , especially when I am driving my car 😉 But jokes apart, I wanted to mix them together in a way to show that I both to belong categories and that one cannot go without the other. I am this strong willed and effeminate person (which is obvious, but in a sense not too much if you know me personally) and I want it to be portrayed through those signs.

The original design of it is here.

One thing is for sure, my mom is gonna chastise me for sure, when she sees this.


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Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “is” Use the word “is” to begin your post – bonus points for using it (as a word on its own or at the end of your final word, i.e. “metamorphosis”) at the end of your post as well. Have fun!

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Another item off the list

One of the things I had earlier planned during my visit to US (and something that didn’t happen) was getting a tattoo done. It was in the making for quite sometime now, to be exact, it was in the process since my last year’s trip to London. I even got the design ready with the help of my close friend, who is very artistic and he managed to get exactly the design I wanted. But it did not materialize until today. On a whim I booked an appointment and finally went there. I wasn’t sure what to expect. When I made the appointment, it was like doing Sky diving all over again. I had a mild scare (after making the appointment of course) and then called up my friend who made the design to accompany me, just so that I don’t chicken out. So yeah, finally after 2-3 hours of work I got it done and I am so happy about it 🙂 It does feel good to do what you want to do and finally being able to do it too. Now I gotta think of something else exciting!!! 😎 Here is the final outcome. Yay!!!
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For anyone interested in the design, it is a mix of two astrological signs, i.e. Taurus and Virgo. I was happy that I could get a customized design and even the tattoo artist was impressed with it and gave us ideas on how to shade it better. Thank you dear friend. I owe you a lot for this. And my mom isn’t gonna be too happy about it 😉 Wonder what she will say when she sees this when I meet her next weekend!!! That’s gonna be interesting.

SoCS: Me and my elements

I belong to the ‘Earth’ element according to my Astrological Sun Sign (Taurus) and may be because of that I sort of buy things which mostly have the earth color tone. Almost all my dresses look the same color.

I have a love-hate relationship with the ‘Water’ element, because I hate that I can’t enjoy it fully because I don’t know how to swim yet I love any water body and would love to settle near the ocean.

I wish that the element of ‘Air’ ( the humidity part of it ) wouldn’t trouble me so much. I have been having trouble breathing and am functioning on almost 3-4 hours of sleep for the past week because of clogged sinus which is really a very irritating thing right now.

Fire (from the candles of course), is an element I love to photograph regularly in the confines of my home. I have so many pictures of candle light, of the flickering of the flames, of the long and beautiful shadows that they cast.   

 


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Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “element.” Choose one of the four: air/water/earth/fire or use the word “element” however you wish to define it. Enjoy!

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Arranging a marriage

This post was inspired by a recent post that I read in Freshly Pressed and a comment I made in another post.

In India, the concept of arranged marriages are still very much prevalent. Here are some details of how it happens. Even though the sequence below is the mostly practiced one down South, there are always changes and variations based on the people and families involved. This post is based on the experiences of the astrologer in the family and that of my siblings and friends who went on that road well traveled. (Note: In the post, the bride and groom are to be considered as prospective bride and groom only)

Arranged marriages, almost 90% of the time, involve horoscopes. Unless and otherwise the families are non-believers and / or they have already decided that the bride and groom are to be married as per the ‘promises’ already made etc etc.. only in such cases, the horoscopes are skipped.

The bridge/groom’s parents/relative(s) scrounges for horoscopes from the various input modes available (internet,other relatives, relative’s relatives, known family, acquaintances, marriage brokers, agents….list is endless). Once they get hold of a horoscope(s), they go to the astrologer(s) and verify the same for compatibility (of social status, of families, of bride and groom , of procreation, of wealth, of health …. you name it) More on that here. They also try and understand the overall character of the groom/bride from the given horoscope (yes, that is possible, just ask your astrologer 😉 ) Mostly people will go for minimum of 6 out of 10 for a good match and if it exceeds that then it is a better match (Just don’t let that bride/groom out of your hand). Anything less than that (6 is the ideal number) , it is not worth pursuing unless they are desperate and are finding no matches at all and are ready for some remedial measures , if that is possible.

Once they score a good one there, then they contact the other family and let them know about the match and both discuss on how they want to proceed. They try to exchange photos for a ‘initial’ look before proceeding. Earlier the bride’s father should have to go and welcome the groom’s to their home, but that doesn’t happen much now. Then they plan on the ‘meet’ the bride/groom event. The groom usually visits the bride. The parents talk about their families and about the ‘achievements’ of their kid(s) and all that usual stuff. If the bride/groom are smart enough, they get the chance to talk to each other under the watchful eye of their parents, of course, they are given a little privacy that they won’t be heard. Sometimes, the bride could be asked to sing (not dance) if she is capable of it [When we had been to my brother’s meet the bride event, my brother did ask if the bride could sing , just for fun, but was outsmarted when she actually started singing and we didn’t know how to ask her to stop]. What they talk between them will anyway be inquired by their parents later. Once the event is done, the groom’s family lets the bride’s family know that they will be in contact about the decision. Very few people decide then and there. Because mostly the parents need time to investigate the other family through friends and acquaintances.

Both families talk to the prospective bride/groom and ask their opinion and if that is different from that of their parent’s, then some negotiation’s and convincing and arguments happen. Once they find a match where things from both ends are positive, that is when they allow the bride and groom to talk to each other outside of their watchful eyes. But going out (like dating) or too much emotional attachment is discouraged and anything of that sort is at their (bride/groom’s) own risk.

The parents discuss about the engagement and a time frame that would be suitable for the wedding ceremony after consulting again with their astrologer on the ‘good date’s’ based on the horoscopes. They can decide to have the engagement either the day before the marriage or they can have it earlier as a sort of promise and take some time for the wedding ceremony. Time is important because it all depends on the wedding hall availability, the contractor’s available for the food and other decorations etc. More than the two families , those things take a little extra precedence. If the engagement happens in advance then it is like a sort of half-marriage and both the parents will not have any objections to their children going out together , but still staying late or staying away from home is a strict no.

And finally the wedding, where the lives of these two unknown or starting-to-know individuals come together in the holy matrimony to start the path of discovery of a new life together.

That actually covers the basics 😉 Wanted to keep it short and simple. But here is something to relax you and to let you know what it feels like. Here is a video clip of a scene from a movie (no subtitles and is in Tamil), where the bride and groom are meeting for the first time, yeah that ‘meet the bride/groom event’ . Some background info for the clip: The groom is a military man and is home for a vacation and his parents and sisters drag him from the railway station to meet the prospective bride at their home. Even though both the bride and groom are very modern, they have to behave in a certain way amongst the elders. Later the groom complains that the bride is too traditional for his taste , where infact she isn’t 😉 Yes, it is ideal to wear a saree for these events, may be not like the one that beautiful actress has worn with all that jewelry but still it is expected that the bride look her best.