” Mummy ! I don’t want to wear this. I am a girl. Girls don’t wear pants. Only boys wear them. Give me a skirt. “
This is what my first niece told her mom yesterday, when she was asked to wear her night dress, which is a pant and shirt model. She and her mom had a big discussion over that, on how it is comfortable to wear for nights, how she will get to wear her skirts , frocks and churidar’s whenever she wants. She then came up with another question.
“Mummy! I am a girl and I can wear both pants and frocks. Why don’t boys wear frocks? Why do they wear only the pants ?”
She was indeed referring to my nephew and other boys she sees at school. Her mom got too tired of her questions and told her that she will find out the answer and let her know about it. I did not get involved because I was having fun watching it from the stands 😉
This first one is a typical girl. She loves dressing up. Wearing bright new dresses, matching earrings, bangles, hair done appropriately, all things that go with it. She spends more time on that with her mom than she does for her eating. The second one is the exact opposite of the first one and resembles me more in that fashion. Simple, no-nonsense dress sans makeup is her mantra. I wonder how the first one will be when she grows up. Poor brother. He will have his hands full.
I don’t know how she made the conclusion that girls ought to wear only these kind of dresses and if not they look like boys. No one taught her. In fact she sees me more in my jeans and kurta than in my churidar’s. Where does these prejudices come from for these kids (she is hardly 4 years old). How can I make her understand that there are men who wear skirts in a place called Scotland 😉 except that it is called Kilt and not a skirt. When will be the right time to tell her that dresses doesn’t matter. Its comfort that counts.
I am gonna miss them from next week, when I finally move to my place.