I was just folding the laundry , when I realized that my handkerchiefs are all getting older and are torn in places. I am always sad to see them that way , because it is time to replace them. And one thing stuck me. You remember how I liked the movie ‘The Intern’ right ? So in that, Mr Robert De Niro, being the senior and from a totally different generation, ALWAYS carries a handkerchief with him and he sure demonstrates the use of it too. I love the scene where Anne pours her heart out and he is upset because that is the one time he doesn’t have his handkerchief with him. It was so CUTE! Among the people I know of (friends, colleagues, acquaintances etc) I don’t see anyone carrying a handkerchief anymore. I am the odd person out. I cannot go anywhere without a handkerchief in my hand. And nope, those tiny petite ladies handkerchiefs wont do. My hands are quite big and I need the ones that are labelled as men’s kerchiefs 🙄 Recently one of my friend asked me why I haven’t switched to tissues which are disposable and may be more germ free etc. I tried and failed. I am used to my handkerchiefs or hankies. I would have to buy a new set now. And no, I did not have a reason to loan it to anyone so far. I don’t think they are unsafe while we clean the mucus or anything because I ain’t passing it(my hanky) round. I may or may not use it but I still have it in my hand. I have no clue since when I have been doing this, because I feel like its been with me forever. And I don’t really have a specific reason as to why I started having them or why I have them anymore. It’s just a comfort piece of cloth that I have to have with me. And I usually have a dozen with me so that I never run out of them 🙂 I found an article about ‘why a man should carry an handkerchief‘, but why men and not women ? I remember them being part of a woman’s wardrobe during those regency / victorian times right ? at least in all those novels that I read, ain’t it true? Do you carry a hanky with you ? If no, why not ?
Some interesting conversations happen during the tea/coffee breaks. As they say ‘a lot can happen over a cup of coffee’ 😉 So one day, don’t remember how it started (may be if I remember too hard I might find the source….but that isn’t worth it…) but the topic of discussion turned towards the something related to the expectations of other gender. The line that I remember very well from that conversation, said by a male in fact, was ‘Female choose their mate/male based on the power or his ability and not the beauty, whereas the Male always goes for the beauty’ and the other pitched in and said, ‘except for the birds, which does the opposite and that is why we never find a beautiful female bird species’. I said ‘well, no wonder all men are idiots’. ‘I think you got confused between a stupid and an idiot’, came the reply. I had to retract my line and went with ‘well, all men are stupid’ . ‘Yes, we are’ came the acknowledgement 🙂 Then after going back and forth and as usual I had to object to them assuming ‘what women want’ etc etc… they came up with this. ‘Women seek what they don’t have in men…. for e.g. a women who is self sufficient wouldn’t care about the power or money from a man but if she isn’t confident with her beauty, she might want a handsome man for herself (I did this 🙄 ) whereas men, no matter how powerful they are, how handsome they look, they always want beautiful women’
What triggered this post? The next day, after the above discussion happened, I read an article which said ‘5 Ways Men Are Wrong About What Women Want’ and I had to laugh out loud on what was discussed in that and how it started with almost what we had discussed. I liked that article 🙂
All I am gonna say is, Men are Stupid, Women are Crazy and the logic of the details are always fuzzy.