Thoughts, Words, Action

“Words are nothing by loud thoughts.” said my friend.

“Not entirely. [Words are] more of censored thoughts or to be more precise [Words are ] thoughts filtered through societal norms. ”¬†said I.

[courtesy: a late night conversation]

I also read somewhere that ‘Drunk words are sober thoughts’ ūüėČ I am not sure of that.¬†Irrespective of my alcohol induced-buzzed state or otherwise, my words always appear a little buzzed.

I do filter them because even though I might scream profanities in my head, I hardly say them out loud. And when I do say them, I sort of get a loud response in the form of silence.¬†In my college, during a lecture, I remembered one of a guest lecturer saying that ‘be careful about your thoughts and words, because it will circle the world and will come back to you one time or the other’. That is why I am a little careful about what I say.

I am also not a person who will voice out whatever I think. I think a lot. My brain can go to all places and create a mind map of its own from a single¬†source point. It’s probably the case with everyone. It would definitely make me look a little crazy if I voice out every one of them. But sometimes thoughts are just not enough isn’t. Unless I voice them out or give them form using words, they may mean something to me, but they don’t carry enough weight as much as they should. But once we¬†give them form using words, is that enough? They say actions speak louder than words? So should we convert the thoughts to actions or words? Does it depend on what the thought is about? Should some thoughts just remain as thoughts? Let me give you some examples for these which came to my mind. Let us say I miss someone, should I tell them or show them? If I am so angry at someone that I wish them ill, should this thought be even given a form either as words or actions? If I think of something creative, would it be enough to explain it or will it carry more weight if I put it in action?

Thoughts are the most powerful among all these. Because it is solely ours. It can’t be twisted in any form. It can’t be misunderstood. It can’t be misinterpreted. It is the purest form because it is within the confines of our mind and has the power to affect our soul. But unless it is given a form, it will also die an easy death. It can be lost in the huge maze of our mind. And only we have the power to convert it. And that power makes each of us a creator. Does it?

I guess, I got carried away with the topic ūüôā There was one other thing that was discussed but I will come back to it later.

Returning Thanks

No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks. – James Allen

OM aka Jason (I don’t know why but I have never been able to call him Jason ever since he announced his real name) is moving to a new place in the blogosphere. I think it is my duty (as the quote above says) to return my Thanks to him for all the ways he has helped me with blogging. Its been three years and even though I have already said this before in some older posts I would like to say this again that he is the first person ever who made me feel comfortable to actually open up and speak to other bloggers through comments.

I was quite shy when I joined WordPress. I had a blog in blogspot ¬†(the blog is still active but no action takes place there) ¬†but I wanted a better blogging space hence, I moved to WordPress. I was my quiet self, observing and checking blogs and enjoying the blogosphere in my own silent way. I am never a conversation starter. It always¬†was the other person’s work. ¬†But that changed a bit when I started following OM. I felt comfortable to voice what I think, even though it may be something quirky, something unimportant or just a plain smile. If you have been following him, you would know that he does write posts on how to blog without fear. Well, something must have rubbed off on me, because I started slowly and steadily to check out more blogs, comment on them and even interact. I also made some friends online. Go figure!

Then he started a project called Project O (O for Opinion). I was very hesitant, but then he gave me the courage to join it. It was a real fun experience to be able to interact with bloggers from so many different places and their views on various questions related to opinion. It also gave me boost not only in terms of personal encouragement to be more active with my blogging, but also a lot of followers. I also found a lot of fellow minded people whom I still follow, even though a couple of them blog no more.

I have also had the pleasure of being his Guest Blogger a couple of times and they were fun too. It is quite intimidating for me to be able to post¬†something for such a big audience.¬†But since I use images rather than words, I know my poor grammar skills wont be noticed ūüėČ I know that he is one of those bloggers who blogs not only¬†for fun but they also build a platform, a community and encourage others in the process. I know that he is an inspiration to a lot.

His¬†work of building the platform that he has now with his blog might look like an easy walk, but it was quite an hike. There were some skids and falls but as¬†the quote goes ‘It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.’ he has always got up, got up pretty fast and kept treading on.

Moving to a new place isn’t all easy and nice, even though it is quite exciting. I wish him all the luck with his efforts and hope that it works out well for him and the transition goes smoothly. I will still be following him in his new domain but I wanted to make sure I don’t forget to let him know how much his personal efforts to build such a comfortable space in the big world of blogs has made a lasting impact on one of the bloggers and how grateful I am for those efforts.

Thank you OM ūüôā and God Bless You!

:lol:

You know that word (Face with Tears of Joy) ¬†or ūüėÜ is the Oxford Dictionaries Word of the Year 2015 ?

According to this¬†blog post from their website,¬†among a list of other words like lumbersexual (huh?!) , refugee (really? isnt that in the dictionary already? ) , ad blocker (good lord!) , dark web (I give up, after this!), sharing economy, they, brexit, on fleek etc, ¬†this emoji ūüėÜ (aka face with tears of joy emoji) was chosen to be the Word of the Year! They say

“Emojis are no longer the preserve of texting teens ‚Äď instead, they have been embraced as a nuanced form of expression, and one which can cross language barriers.”

I should agree to it, because now that my texting frequency has increased over the past couple of months (will let you know why, later) I find myself using the emoji’s when I am either rendered speechless or when I don’t know if words would convey what I feel. Its all good and all, but I am not really very sure if I would have considered it for the Word of the Year category. What do you think ?
If I had to vote for a word from their list, I would have gone with ‘refugee’ or even ‘lumbersexual’ (if we can have hetereosexual why not this one heh). What would have been your choice? Here is the list from that article.

ad blocker, noun: A piece of software designed to prevent advertisements from appearing on a web page.

Brexit, noun: A term for the potential or hypothetical departure of the United Kingdom from the European Union, from British + exit.

Dark Web, noun: The part of the World Wide Web that is only accessible by means of special software, allowing users and website operators to remain anonymous or untraceable.

on fleek, adjectival phrase: Extremely good, attractive, or stylish.

lumbersexual, noun: A young urban man who cultivates an appearance and style of dress (typified by a beard and check shirt) suggestive of a rugged outdoor lifestyle.

refugee, noun: A person who has been forced to leave their country in order to escape war, persecution, or natural disaster.

sharing economy, noun: An economic system in which assets or services are shared between private individuals, either for free or for a fee, typically by means of the Internet.

they (singular), pronoun: Used to refer to a person of unspecified sex.

O K K

This Sunday, went to the newly released Tamil Movie ‘O Kadal Kanmani‘. This isn’t about my views on the movie, although I should say that I was impressed by the storyline and liked the movie a lot. Good music, very good background score, handsome hero, beautiful and expressive heroine, understanding old couple… It had its moments of cliche’s and unwanted scenes, but overall was a breezy and nice romantic drama.¬†This isn’t the first movie to talk about live-in relationships. There was a Thriller called ‘Pizza’ which had a small plot but since it wasn’t very important to the main story line, it got breezed over. But this being the romantic drama, the story revolved around that and also about Alzheimer’s of an older couple. It reminded me of the movie ‘Away from Her‘, which is so amazing and so heart wrenching.

Incidentally, just a week before, even before I knew the plot of this movie, one of my friend was coercing me , as usual, to get ‘settled’ in life a.k.a get married again. He is a little conservative in his opinions and beliefs. So when we ended up talking about marriage and live in relationships, he told me that it wouldn’t suit our culture. I told him that I ain’t as worried about the culture as I am worried about my comfortability with it. He wasn’t convinced, as usual ūüôā Having grown up in a conservative and orthodox family, until I started work, I had no clue as to what live-in relationship really meant. But then once I started work, and got to know about the outer world, I should say I was a little surprised, but then as long as people involved are happy and content, it is fair and OK with me. Once, a young girl in my hostel came to me and asked me what I thought about live-in relationships. I had no clue as to how to answer her,¬†because ¬†she sort of looked up to me and I didn’t want to be in a position to guide her in these matters, when I wasn’t sure what it entailed. This society being a patriarchal society even now, I had heard of cases where the women were the ones who end up being emotionally hurt (not to mention in some cases where the physical hurt was also involved)¬†in such relationships. Not until 2005, cohabitation or live in relationships were even recognized. I told her that as long as the people involved were¬†strong enough to handle the ups and downs of it as it would be in any relationship, it is fine with me.

There is a line in the movie, where the hero’s sister in law sort of interrogates the heroine suspecting something and when she is confronted, the heroine agrees to their living arrangement. So the sister in law asks if¬†they were gonna get married. For which the heroine asks how does a marriage certificate would change anything at all with the way they live. Finally they do get married for a different reason, but that is entirely their prerogative and not because they wanted to prove something to¬†the elders, who didnt understand their live in arrangement. Where do I stand with these kind of relationships?¬†I don’t think I would mind¬†a live in relationship to be with someone whom I like and can actually see a future with, if not forever at least a few years.¬†If that has to be sealed, signed and delivered, for all practical and legal purposes through a marriage, then that is the path the relationship should go through. Does a marriage certificate really change the relationship ? I would say, yes, it does to some extent. It gives it a legal binding and we are emotionally attached to it so some extent. Some people need that kind of grounding and trust that comes with it. But not all. ¬†I believe emotionally , it doesn’t matter. Until¬†the emotional attachment between the people involved is strong and alive, the paper¬†binding holds good and has value. Else…

I am glad that such topics are being handled in the mainstream Tamil movie and making people at least start talking about it, rather than in hushed tones.