Source: An Article from Aeon Magazine
Source: An Article from Aeon Magazine
Source: An Article from Aeon Magazine
Recently when I was discussing with someone about talking to my mom about an issue, I told them that I am never sure how she would react to something I tell her. In my experience, I have always seen that when I expect her to be all shocked and flabbergasted in turn leading me to some slight high pressure moments, she goes like ‘hmmm…’ and then nothing… and then my pressure drops suddenly. That is never good. And then when I expect her to be accepting, she becomes all cranky and reacts as if I have gone back in time and have meddled with the events and hence meddled with the future too…as if the whole evolution is my fault. That is when I go on a ‘WTH just happened’ mode and I can never find a way out of it.
During that discussion, I found out one thing. I am not sure if that is true, but I know that I have been there once and I will never forget that moment. So probably this is what goes through my mom’s mind too and why she reacts that way. Are you ready ? OK…here it goes.
Let’s take an example. I was pretty sure, she was gonna go ballistic on me when I tell her that I got a tattoo done. So, I start with ‘hey mom…you know what… I have been meaning to tell you this for a long time now..but never found out the right time….I know it was a risky thing to do but then…’ pause for some effect. Now as soon as I open the line… ‘I have been meaning’….my mom’s mind creates a whole mind map thing and creates if’s and what if’s and what I might have done…and it invariably goes to the worse case scenario and she starts to think, what has she done now…is it related to her life, has she done something again that will harm her, what am I supposed to do, why is she like this ? etc etc etc…and after a few nano seconds where she has all the worse possible things I could tell her, she is now waiting for me to choose the worst from them.
And she is already planning arguments, counter arguments or ways to accept in her own way…and by the time I am there to tell her about the tattoo…she has got a spectrum of bad things I can tell her to the worst things I can tell her.
Now if what I tell her falls in the lesser than bad point of the spectrum, then she goes with ‘hmmm…its not a big deal’ ( and in her mind she thinks…at least it is not as bad as I thought…Good Lord! and has a mental phew! moment) but if it falls on the other end of it , that is worse than the worst of her spectrum, she goes ballistic. Because she hasn’t mentally prepared herself for it even a teeny tiny bit. And if it is within the spectrum, she is ready for the battle with her arguments all mapped out.
So with my tattoo…I guess it was on the lowest scale of her spectrum and she just went….’you are nuts!’ and left it there and never spoke of it again.
I am sure, this may not make much sense…but it could a possible scenario to consider isn’t , especially when you are trying to figure out people and their reactions 😉 ?
I have been here at my parent’s place for a week and a half now (because of my mom, who broke her leg last week and then a small part of her spine bone this week). My nieces saw my tattoo for the first time and the reactions were very amusing 🙂 First it was “Wooowww!!!”, next came “Oh my God! I am afraid to touch it, its gonna bite me” and then it was “is it still there? Can I touch it? “.
Their teachers always draw a ‘star’ on their palm if they did good at school for some classes. And that goes away once they wash it off every day and the next day they look forward to getting another star which they come and show with so much pride. So they thought that this tattoo was also like a star and became a little too enthused about it. My first niece got into her head that I have been drawing it in my skin daily (because she found it shiny , and it was because I had just applied Vaseline on it thanks to the weather which is too dry) and took it upon her to rub it off my skin. She rubbed it for sometime and once the Vaseline was coming off, she thought she succeeded too, then lo behold, it was still there. She then thought for a while and asked if I had applied any cream. When I laughed and said yes, she was sort of relieved as well as disappointed 😆 And then everyday they would ask me to show my tattoo. Yesterday my second niece decided it was time to tell her daddy (my brother, to whom I hadn’t updated about my new tattoo wondering what his reaction would be) about it and his reaction was totally anticlimatic. I was expecting a big sigh, a lecture etc etc… but then he did a 180 and said that he also wanted to do some on both his biceps once they get a little more defined (thanks to his gymming which is becoming quite an obsession with him now) To say that I was shocked was an understatement. My family did not react the way I expected them to with respect to my tattoo. My mom just shook her head and went back to her work. Something is clearly wrong! 😯
I wrote this post but figured that this would fit this weeks SoCS well and after a long week and a journey, I am taking an easy way out too 🙂
Post for this week’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday prompt.
Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “enthuse.” Add a prefix or suffix to it or leave it as it is and go to town with it! Enjoy!
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Major Spoiler Alert for ‘Game of Thrones’ or ‘A Song of Ice and Fire’ series.
Finally, I finished the fourth season of Game of Thrones Series yesterday. Whoa! There were too many things happening there in this season. Here are my reactions to some of the scenes.
a) Tyrion’s trial: I almost cried when I saw Shae walking into the trial. Shucks man!!! I really thought they would leave her out of the story here. I felt so bad for him and when he gives everyone there a piece of his mind, I just wanted to go and hug him. It was like I was there personally to witness his pain. Well done Peter, very well done!
b) Jofferey’s death: Ah! What a scene. I might sound bad and evil for saying this, but I just enjoyed watching the scenes unfold 😉 as was the last scene
c) Bran’s detour. I thought the story was going somewhere different and was so scared for Bran. God ! that kid. But glad to have him back to the place where he is supposed to be finally.
d) Thank God for the new Daario Naharis. I am so glad that they replaced the old actor with this new one. Much better.
e) even though I hated that he had a very short life span in the story, I just loved watching Pedro Pascal as Oberyn Martell. Wow.. that guy is really very good looking (and I don’t say that often). I always thought he did a stupid thing by being very emotional and stuff during the combat, but then the story needs a loser there, so its OK.
I was a little concerned when Brienne actually meets Arya because I thought how they were gonna handle that because she has to go to Braavos right ? But glad that even with those detours and stuff, they still managed to get the story back in place. This season, I think was the most action packed , be it in the Walls, the Drogon, confusion in the Lannisters family, Sansa’s change of heart etc etc.
And now after this, the wait begins. Its gonna be a very long wait 😦
<Huge Spoiler Alert for Game of Thrones, so please refrain from reading if you haven’t seen season 2 and 3>
This Sunday, finally I managed to complete watching till the end of 3rd season of Game of Thrones. Even though I have read that book, had that emotional reaction, it still did not make it any less painful to watch it. Holy S**t. I can totally empathize with these people. Especially when they were a few scenes just before where they show how they love each other and Robb discovers that he is gonna be a father and all. Shucks that really hurt. I had tears when Catelyn cries out to Robb. Couldn’t help it. And I really wanted to throttle that person who killed Robb’s wife.
The ‘dracarys’ scene where Dany burns Astapor, WOW! that was just …I was spellbound in that. What a beautifully executed scene. Just loved it. Boy, this kid Gleeson, damn, he really made me want to kill him, especially in that scene where he is so ecstatic when he learns of Robb’s death. Jeez! I was holding on to my chair so hard that it was paining.
Why the hell is Jaime coming in early ? Wasn’t he supposed to come after the 2nd death ? The scenes between Tyrion and Sansa were sort of cute when compared to the book. I am yet to see the 4th season, so I am not sure how much it is covered. But I think Shae will not be killed by Tyrion the way it is there in the book. And I hope I am right here. Even through the screens I feel like obeying Tywin Lannister, he is so scary as a father even though I am that kid who defies her father’s wishes just to piss him off (not always but sometimes 😉 ) Where is Mance’s wife and kid ? And who is this person as Daario ? Shouldn’t he be a little more butch in appearance according to the books ? After all the rants the only response I got from my friends is that ‘don’t worry Daario is replaced by another actor’, as if that was the most important thing of all. No wonder, lot of them like Jon Snow and Ygritte. They make a very cute pair. I didn’t feel it in the books, but in the scenes in some places, I felt bad for Cersei, even though I cannot forgive her for anything she did. And the actresses is much better than the first season for sure. And I didn’t expect Natalie Dormer for Margery. And she is shown more smarter than she is in the books. And it is obvious that she is gonna play a bigger role later. I remember her from ‘The Tudors’, even though I have seen only a few episodes there.
There were too many changes that came in suddenly and I am still unable to take them all in. I would have to complete the 4th season before they start with the next one. Damn! I never thought I will be this fast in books and in TV series with respect to the Game of Thrones. And then it is gonna be a very long wait. And Winter is already here. Hope it isn’t a long one.