Me and my husband got married recently through a civil ceremony. Or in other words, we got our marriage registered in front of a marriage registrar with only the witnesses and the very important and close family members with us on that day, just how we wanted it to be. The process was a little tedious given that he doesn’t live in India and isn’t an Indian. I will explain you the drama that happened around that sometime later. But there was one very funny part in that whole process which I still cant help but laugh out loud whenever I think of it.
The day of our registration, we were almost done with all the formalities and stuff. We were waiting for the registrar to sign our marriage certificate and that’s that. But then the guy who was getting our signatures suddenly said to us and to the people around us that we need to take our vows. We were all like, what vows? We didn’t know anything about that? (Sidenote: in Hindu culture we have only Saptapadi as part of the wedding rituals) What are even gonna say. Everything was going on so smoothly…Now what!? But then this guy gives us a form and says to my husband… read your vows…He started reading it,obviously not out loud. So this guy says…Sir, you have to read it out loud…that is your vow. We both look at each other and try so hard not to laugh. And he turns to my aunt and says, you can record these if you want. We were like…no, please, don’t record this for god’s sake. Given no choice, we both read our vows out loud…much to the amusement of every one of our family members gathered round. Wanna know what they were. Here are the vows:
1.I am at the present time a divorcee (since we both were).
2.I have completed <xyz> years of age.
3.I am not related to <each other’s name> within the degrees of prohibited relationship.
4.I am aware that, if any statement in this declaration is false, and if in making such statement, I either know or believe it to be false or do not believe it to true.I am liable to imprisonment and also to fine.
For some reason saying these out loud made it more funny than it is supposed to be. We could have just signed it and left it at that. No idea why he wanted us to read it out loud. And no idea why he called them as vows. They are clearly declaration that the bride and groom should sign as part of the process.
Once we were done, my aunt looked and said…is that it? Nothing more? I lost it there. I laughed at that. I bet no one has had to say such vows said during their wedding. Have you said anything funny or unique?
This week has been very busy and full of action. I hope the dust would get settled by Monday. Well… getting married, even if it is only a civil ceremony, would do that to you I guess 😉
Yes!!! I got married this week. I didn’t have time to update the details about it. This was my T-Shirt which I wore after our marriage 😉 Obviously, his T-shirt said ‘Mr Right’. I got this one for us as a joke, a couple of months ago. And now finally the day has come to wear them.
There is so much to tell you folks and some of them are quite funny but I need to take my time for that. I am still active on WP, but taking it a bit slow with all that is happening on the personal front. So please don’t be offended if I miss your posts this week and the next.
I am a little late for this prompt, but my Saturday went in a blur and I don’t remember half of it 😉
But one thing that I was glad to hear as the first news yesterday was the Supreme Court’s ruling of same sex marriages in USA. Nothing could have put me in a good mood and I was really happy to get drunk on it 🙂
Seriously though, I was glad for my friends for whom this court ruling makes a WHOLE LOT of difference in their lives. When I went to USA this May, I was fortunate to be the photographer of the civil court marriage of two of my very close guy friends. I don’t care what any religion says, all I care about is for my family and friends to be happy and if they find their partner or soulmate in the same sex, so be it. And this legal decision goes a long way to bring equality in a manner of sorts. I am also happy to post this on this Gay Pride Day (it is already Sunday here as per IST, so).
And I love the last paragraph of Justice Kennedy’s speech. I am posting it here, because it has the word ‘some’ in it 😉 So yeah I did fulfill the prompt’s challenge.
No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.
Let me go ahead and use the other word too and end this post with a quote…
“Life is a sum of all your choices”.
To all those to whom this decision makes a difference, Congratulations! and a big hug from me!